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There is a dangerous assumption embedded within how Australia measures violence.
We count deaths when violence leaves visible injuries.
We count women murdered by intimate partners.
We count homicides.
We track physical assaults.
We build policy frameworks around deaths that leave forensic evidence.
But what happens when violence kills slowly?
What happens when a person is not murdered in a single act of physical brutality, but is instead systematically worn down over months or years through coercive control, psychological terror, financial abuse, social isolation, chronic trauma, medical neglect, dependency, and prolonged entrapment until death is statistically recorded as suicide, mental illness, or natural causes?
This is the emerging reality researchers increasingly describe as slow femicide.
And Australia is dangerously behind in recognising it.
But this issue extends further still.
While the term femicide reflects the gendered reality that women disproportionately experience intimate partner violence and coercive control, similar patterns of prolonged abuse-related death can affect Autistic, Neurodivergent, Disabled, chronically ill, intellectually disabled, psychosocially disabled, LGBTQIA+, gender-diverse, and otherwise structurally marginalised people whose vulnerability is often intensified by dependence, discrimination, communication barriers, and systemic invisibility.
The uncomfortable truth is this:
We do not know how many Autistic, Neurodivergent, intellectually disabled, psychosocially disabled, chronically ill, physically disabled, or otherwise marginalised Australians die each year where prolonged abuse directly contributed to suicide or preventable death.
Not because those deaths are rare.
Because nobody is systematically counting them.
What is slow femicide?
The concept of slow femicide has emerged through feminist criminology and domestic violence scholarship, including recent work by Heather Douglas at The University of Melbourne.
It recognises something systems have historically failed to understand:
Violence does not always kill quickly.
Sometimes violence kills through prolonged exposure to:
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coercive control
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psychological abuse
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stalking
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chronic intimidation
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financial captivity
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social isolation
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reproductive coercion
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threats of harm
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sleep deprivation
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medical neglect
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deprivation of autonomy
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sustained trauma exposure
In these situations, the perpetrator may never physically assault the victim immediately prior to death.
Yet the abuse creates the fatal pathway.
The death may later be recorded as suicide.
But the violence that caused it disappears.
Australia’s dangerous statistical blind spot
Australia has become increasingly focused on tracking intimate partner homicide. It is critical to do so.
But homicide is only one way violence ends lives.
Current national systems do not adequately identify suicide deaths where domestic, family and sexual violence contributed significantly to death.
According to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare, approximately 15 Australian women die by suicide every week.
Yet Australia has no national system capable of consistently identifying which of these deaths were preceded by prolonged domestic violence, coercive control, or sustained abuse.
This issue was recently highlighted during a federal parliamentary inquiry, where experts noted that:
We cannot currently say how many Australian women die by suicide each year because of domestic, family and sexual violence.
Not because no one has asked.
Because no government data system in this country has been built to count it.
Three separate Australian state-level investigations, conducted independently in Victoria, Western Australia and New South Wales, each using completely different methodologies, found that between 25 percent and more than 50 percent of women (this number is likely higher) who died by suicide had known histories of domestic and family violence.
Yet Australia’s national linked-record system, built from approximately 850,000 linked records, currently identifies domestic violence history in only 19.4 percent of cases.
This gap is enormously important.
It suggests our national systems are substantially under-detecting abuse-related deaths.
In effect:
Australia is only counting violence when it leaves visible forensic evidence.
The rest disappears into mental health statistics.
Australia is falling behind internationally
Australia formally endorsed the World Health Organization ICD-11 mortality classification framework in 2019.
ICD-11 allows deaths to record histories of intimate partner violence and abuse-related contributing factors.
Seven years later, Australia still has not fully implemented the coding systems needed to identify violence-related suicides in national mortality data.
Other countries are moving ahead.
In the United Kingdom, coercive control legislation has enabled prosecutions where prolonged abuse contributed directly to suicide.
In California, Joanna’s Law requires police to thoroughly investigate suicides where domestic violence history exists, recognising that some domestic violence homicides may be staged to appear as suicide.
Australia has no equivalent framework.
We are behind.
And people are dying in the gaps.
Violence changes the body
Domestic and family violence does not simply affect emotional wellbeing.
It creates measurable physiological harm.
Sustained coercive control forces the body into chronic survival mode.
Research shows prolonged abuse is associated with:
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chronic hypervigilance
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disrupted sleep cycles
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immune suppression
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cardiovascular strain
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inflammatory illness
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autonomic nervous system dysregulation
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gastrointestinal dysfunction
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prolonged cortisol dysregulation
Women exposed to prolonged domestic violence are approximately:
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3 times more likely to experience depression
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4 times more likely to experience anxiety disorders
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More than 7 times more likely to experience post-traumatic stress disorder
This is not simply emotional distress.
This is prolonged physiological siege.
Polyvagal theory and chronic trauma
Stephen Porges developed the framework known as Polyvagal Theory, helping explain how chronic threat changes nervous system functioning.
Under prolonged coercive control, the body cycles through:
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hypervigilance
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fight-or-flight activation
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freeze states
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dissociation
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nervous system collapse
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physiological shutdown
Survival itself becomes biologically exhausting.
Over time, the body loses its capacity to adapt.
The missing neurodivergence lens
One of the most overlooked dimensions of this conversation is the impact on Autistic and Neurodivergent communities.
Emerging research increasingly suggests prolonged coercive control may directly interact with:
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autistic burnout
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chronic sensory overload
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trauma-related shutdown states
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executive functioning collapse
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long-term masking exhaustion
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dissociation
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chronic suicidality
Researchers including Dora Raymaker have increasingly documented autistic burnout as a state of profound neurological, cognitive and physiological exhaustion caused by prolonged life stress, masking, environmental mismatch and sustained overwhelm.
When coercive control compounds these existing pressures, the cumulative effect may dramatically accelerate:
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loss of functioning
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chronic suicidality
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nervous system collapse
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physical health deterioration
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reduced capacity to escape abusive environments
For many Autistic people, abuse may not resemble conventional domestic violence crisis narratives.
Instead, it may present as progressive decline.
The danger is that these warning signs may be interpreted purely as mental health deterioration rather than recognised as responses to sustained abuse.
How coercive control exploits neurodivergence
Abusive partners may intentionally exploit neurodivergent vulnerabilities.
This can include:
Executive functioning exploitation
Controlling:
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finances
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transport
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appointments
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medication
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communication access
Creating learned dependency.
Sensory dysregulation weaponisation
Deliberately creating:
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overstimulation
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chaotic environments
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sleep disruption
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sensory overwhelm
Triggering shutdown and burnout.
Gaslighting disability itself
Abusers may repeatedly say:
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Nobody will believe you
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You are imagining things
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That is just your autism
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You are too unstable to make decisions
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You are overreacting because of your disability
The diagnosis itself becomes a weapon.
Suicide threats can themselves be coercive control
One frequently overlooked pattern clinicians and victim-survivors report is that threats of suicide are sometimes weaponised by perpetrators themselves.
Abusers may threaten:
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If you leave me, I will kill myself
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If you report me, I will hurt myself
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You are responsible for my life
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If you leave, everything that happens will be your fault
This creates profound psychological entrapment.
Victim-survivors may remain trapped not only by fear for their own safety, but by fear that leaving may cause harm to the perpetrator.
The abuse extends beyond physical danger.
Responsibility itself becomes manipulated.
Medical gaslighting and diagnostic overshadowing
For disabled and Neurodivergent people, abuse is often hidden by healthcare systems themselves.
Medical professionals may document:
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depression
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anxiety
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emotional dysregulation
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suicidality
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behavioural distress
Without recognising that these symptoms may reflect sustained abuse.
This is known as diagnostic overshadowing.
The perpetrator disappears from the record.
The victim becomes pathologised.
Clinical systems document mental illness.
But fail to document violence.
The disability violence crisis Australia barely tracks
Disabled women experience dramatically higher rates of violence.
According to estimates from the United Nations, women with disabilities experience violence at rates two to four times higher than non-disabled women.
Yet Australia does not systematically integrate disability status into domestic violence death review systems.
This means we cannot answer basic questions on related topics.
We do not know:
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how many disabled Australians die by suicide after prolonged abuse
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how many Autistic people experience coercive control before suicide
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how many intellectually disabled people experience fatal abuse pathways
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how many deaths are being misclassified as mental illness
The data simply does not exist.
Carer violence and disability-specific abuse
Disabled people are often abused not only by intimate partners.
They may be abused by:
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carers
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guardians
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support workers
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substitute decision makers
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institutional providers
Within the context of the National Disability Insurance Scheme, dependence relationships can create dangerous forms of entrapment.
Abuse may involve:
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medication withholding
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preventing medical appointments
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restricting access to mobility aids
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communication deprivation
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withholding food
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controlling disability funding
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restricting personal care
This abuse may never appear in domestic violence statistics.
Yet it can be fatal.
Institutional violence and restrictive practices
Violence pathways do not occur only inside intimate relationships.
Institutional systems can create similar conditions of prolonged trauma.
This includes:
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chemical restraint
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seclusion
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involuntary psychiatric detention
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forced behavioural compliance systems
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prolonged restrictive practices
Australia’s Royal Commission into Violence, Abuse, Neglect and Exploitation of People with Disability exposed widespread violence, abuse and neglect across disability services.
Long-term exposure to these systems may contribute to:
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PTSD
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chronic trauma dysregulation
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suicidality
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physiological collapse
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learned helplessness
Yet these pathways are rarely investigated as violence-related deaths.
Economic violence creates structural captivity
Abuse is often financial.
Economic violence may involve:
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controlling wages
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forced debt creation
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restricting employment
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manipulating welfare access
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controlling disability payments
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preventing financial independence
For disabled people reliant on systems like Services Australia and Centrelink, financial abuse can function as captivity.
Leaving becomes structurally impossible.
The First Nations reality
Any Australian discussion of violence-related death must acknowledge the disproportionate burden experienced by Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities.
Aboriginal women experience significantly higher rates of family violence while simultaneously navigating:
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intergenerational trauma
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colonial violence structures
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child removal legacies
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systemic racism
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over-policing
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under-protection
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barriers to culturally safe services
But data collection itself cannot be separated from colonial systems.
Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities have historically experienced state surveillance, criminalisation and institutional distrust, meaning violence may be over-policed in some contexts while simultaneously under-recognised when protection is needed.
This means current violence data may itself undercount the true scale of harm.
Once again:
The deaths remain partially invisible.
LGBTQIA+ communities face parallel risks
Coercive control frequently intersects with identity-based abuse.
LGBTQIA+ people may face:
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threats of forced outing
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family rejection
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housing instability
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identity-based coercion
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economic isolation
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barriers to affirming support systems
Autistic LGBTQIA+ people may face compounded vulnerability through overlapping discrimination and reduced access to safe services.
These abuse pathways remain significantly under-researched in Australia.
Suicide prevention frameworks are failing
Current suicide prevention systems frequently individualise distress.
They focus on:
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psychiatric diagnosis
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depression
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emotional dysregulation
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crisis intervention
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mental illness treatment
But often fail to ask the most important question:
What if violence itself is the cause?
Contemporary suicide prevention frameworks frequently treat suicidality as an internal psychological pathology rather than recognising that distress may be an entirely rational response to:
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prolonged coercive control
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unsafe relationships
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sustained abuse
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caregiver violence
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institutional trauma
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disability-related dependency abuse
The result is devastating.
Victims receive treatment.
Perpetrators remain invisible.
The individual is pathologised.
The environment causing the harm remains untouched.
The underreporting problem is enormous
For Autistic, intellectually disabled, psychosocially disabled and otherwise Neurodivergent people, abuse is almost certainly profoundly underreported.
Many individuals:
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do not recognise coercive control
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communicate distress differently
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fear institutional consequences
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rely on perpetrators for daily survival
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fear disbelief due to disability stigma
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have prior experiences of not being believed
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fear institutionalisation or service removal if disclosure occurs
Communication differences, reliance on support people, dependence relationships, prior experiences of disbelief, and diagnostic stigma may prevent disclosure entirely.
As a result:
Current domestic violence and suicide statistics likely represent only a fraction of the true scale of harm experienced within disabled communities.
The real numbers may be far higher.
What Australia urgently needs
Australia urgently needs:
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Full implementation of WHO ICD-11 violence-related mortality coding
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National recording of domestic violence related suicide deaths
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Coronial investigations examining abuse history in suicides
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Disability-specific violence mortality tracking
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Autism and Neurodivergence inclusion in violence research
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Greater investigation of caregiver abuse deaths
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Stronger accountability laws where coercive control foreseeably contributed to death
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Research funding examining abuse-related suicide pathways
Because you cannot prevent deaths your systems are incapable of seeing.
The truth we cannot ignore
Governments often point to falling domestic homicide rates as evidence of progress.
We are not saying that reduction is not important.
But homicide is only one way violence kills.
If a woman dies by suicide after years of coercive control…
If an Autistic person experiences prolonged abuse until burnout becomes chronic suicidality…
If a disabled person dies after years of caregiver neglect, dependency abuse and systemic isolation…
If institutional trauma slowly destroys a person’s capacity to survive…
The system often records:
Mental illness.
Suicide.
Natural causes.
But leaves out the most important truth.
Violence caused the death.
If Australia only counts deaths where violence leaves visible physical injuries, then we are not measuring the true toll of domestic, family and systemic violence.
Some perpetrators kill in minutes.
Others kill over years.
Until our systems recognise coercive control, cumulative trauma, disability-related abuse, institutional violence and violence-related suicide as part of the same continuum, thousands of deaths will remain hidden behind the language of mental illness while the violence that caused them goes officially unrecorded.
You cannot fund prevention, intervene effectively, or hold perpetrators accountable for deaths your own systems refuse to see.
And until we begin counting these deaths properly…
Australia will continue claiming progress while entire categories of violence-related death remain invisible.
Not because the violence is rare.
Because our systems were never designed to see it.
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